How to give and receive feedback?


It surely seems a difficult task when it comes to giving and receiving feedback, rarely anyone volunteers to do it.  Each one will give excuses to squeeze himself or herself out of this difficult situation.  The reason can be attributed to inexperience, lack of knowledge, reluctance, discomfort, tension, and fears associated with giving and receiving feedback.

Here are few good things that giving and receiving feedback can do to improve your life:

Receiving Feedback

Irrespective of age, whether you are young or adult, receiving feedback helps you as a person to understand oneself more.

Receiving feedback helps you to improve your life in a balanced way.  It also helps you to

  • Increase awareness of self
  • Helps to determine the consequences of one’s behavior
  • To change or modify your behavior

Receiving Feedback requires “Leveling”.  Leveling comprises the following points.

  1. Make it safe and comfortable for them (those who are giving the feedback) to do so.
  2. Accept the data gracefully
  3. Not to become defensive or hostile
  4. Show acceptance and appreciation to the feedback
  5. At least attempt to make use of the data

Giving Feedback

On the other hand, generally people show great interest in giving feedback packed in advice to people.  Anyone can go ahead and give feedback but caution should be exercised while giving it.  If your feedback goes wrong, it will do more harm than good.

One should understand that giving feedback is a delicate art in which your feedback should not invite defensive approach from others and that it should be done in a constructive manner. Whether it is one in a group or individually, the attempt should be to mirror the impact another’s behavior has on you.  You should observe the “reactions” to immediately get the feedback to your feedback.

A group particularly can act as a many angled mirror, in which the individual can see himself / herself, through the reactions of others to his / her behavior.


To give feedback effectively

  • You need to make sure that the receiver (a group or an individual) understands your message – Clarity in communication.
  • They should feel it as relevant and useful
  • They need to be willing to accept it
  • They need to be able to do something about it.

When to give and receive feedback is an art in itself,

It leads to either sharing or suffering depends on how you do it……

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